Police Fail 102 Australian Women Killed By Men in 2024

This post was originally published in October for Domestic Violence Awareness Month. As you know, in Australia, we have been in a femicide epidemic since 2022.

Every 4 days in Australia in 2024, another woman is murdered by a man.

Usually a man she knows.

Usually, she is a First Nations woman, or a disabled woman, who are both attacked and murdered at much higher rates than others.

Almost always, the attacker is a straight, white male.

This matters. It matters so much.

No one deserves to be brutally murdered, like these women have been. No one.

And especially as you will see below, most of these murders could have been easily prevented by police, courts, and the government.

So we have to condemn men’s violence against women, by talking about them until it changes.

Until the governments believe us, and act on it.

Until the police believe us, and act on it.

Until the courts believe us, and act on it.

Today, I’ll be focussing on the ways the police in every state and territory across Australia has been failing women, children, women of colour, non-binary people, trans people, queer people, etc.

This choice to focus on the police is validated by the fact that so many states’ police forces tried in 2024 to suppress the results of internal and external investigations that showed they were failing DFV victims.

For example, it was uncovered in October 2024 that Queensland Police Service (QPS) had deliberately blocked “damaging” reports about their Service Delivery Program’s dealings with DFV victims. Internal emails about Queensland Police’s failure were confirmed by direct quotes from their own leadership.

Throughout this post, I’ve linked to reports about police failing to catch male killers and failing to protect the women and children whom these killers targeted.

What you need to know about women’s lives and men’s violence while reading this article

I want to honour the lives of the 102 women killed by men in 2024, because they are so much more than just statistics.

Each of them were loved by family and friends.

I have included links to my main sources for this information, including the amazing resources created by journalist Sherele Moody. I have tried to source only articles that included names and photographs after seeking consent from the families of these women; however, the media doesn’t always do this, so I couldn’t always find respectful sources. If you are a First Nations reader, please know that some of the articles I’ve linked to include photographs of the women who were killed.

I have also made my best attempt to uncover the correct gender identity and pronouns for each of these people, and after more than 2 days of research, I have reached the limits of what I can find out online for free. If you find any misgendering errors, please let me know and I will update this article with sincere apologies. I want to stop men’s violence against all humans, whether they are women, children, people of colour, non-binary people, trans people, other men, etc.

Finally, I could not write about men’s violence against women in Australia without acknowledging the atrocities that male political leaders, male soldiers, male police, and other men are committing right now across the world. War, genocide, and other violence against women continues unchecked in Gaza, Lebanon, Sudan, Darfur, the Democratic Republic of Congo, Ukraine, Afghanistan, Syria, and many more countries as I write this.

What can I do to stop domestic violence in Australia?

For those who cannot read about injustice without acting on it – like me – I recommend these actions:

  • If you’re a man, I want to see you posting about domestic violence issues. I firmly believe all men should be actively working to prevent men’s violence against women and children, and demanding systemic changes from the government so that victim-survivors can leave and stay safe. What about “not all men”? No. Until all men are actively campaigning to stop men’s violence … it is all men.
  • Donate to your local DV support services, or to the families. Women’s shelters, domestic violence shelters, and DV support services are all ridiculously underfunded by local, state, and federal governments. In 2024 alone, many DV shelters have had to close their doors, including the one that was controversially closed by the Perth Mayor and WA Premier. If you can afford it, give a little – every little bit helps, and it’s tax-deductible. If you prefer to donate directly to the families of these 63+ women, you can find and donate to their GoFundMe campaigns, to help them raise money for funeral or memorial services.
  • Email your federal and state Members of Parliament (MP). You can find the contact details for Queensland MPs easily, and you can usually find contact details for most federal Senators and MPs. Ask them which women’s shelters and women’s legal services they are directly funding, and demand that they pay more. Tell them to increase staffing at courthouses, so that victim-survivors can get DV protection orders faster. In Queensland, it currently takes up to 2 years to get a protection order that only lasts 5 years. Australia has a budget surplus in 2024 – THE GOVERNMENT CAN AFFORD TO DO BETTER!
  • Send a complaint to Centrelink, who routinely denies DV victim-survivors the financial help they need: the Crisis Payment for Extreme Circumstances Family and Domestic Violence, and the separate Escaping Violence Payment (EVP) program. Tell Centrelink to hire more people for their DV section and their Families Line. Because DV victim-survivors should be waiting on the phone for hours every day for weeks, just to hear, when they finally reach the top of the queue, “We can’t help you.” It’s not good enough. Australia’s budget surplus means the government – through Services Australia and Centrelink – can afford to help more vulnerable women and children than they do.
  • Send a complaint to the Police Commissioner in your state or territory about one of the 63+ women who have died this year so far. Ask the commissioner what they are doing today to prevent any other women dying in their state or territory. Because as you will see from the below records, many of these women would still be alive today if police would just do their damn jobs.
  • If you know a lawyer or have a lawyer, ask them how many pro bono cases they take on. Every lawyer in Australia should be helping at least one domestic violence victim-survivor with trying to get protection orders, parenting orders, Victim Assist payments, home loan contracts, workplace harassment suits, Wills and estates, and more. All of these factors can force victims to stay with violent men or stay in bad situations, unless they have the money to hire a lawyer – which most women do not.
  • If you’re worried about someone you know, phone your local police station and ask to speak to a sergeant. Ask them to make a “welfare check” and put it on record that you have reported concerns about someone’s violence or concerns for someone’s safety. Our taxpayer dollars are paying these cops’ salaries. It is literally their job to go and check that violent men are staying away from women and children like they should be. As you’ll see in the article below, most of these women’s bodies were only discovered because friends and family told police to go look.
  • Worried for your own safety? Call 000 in an emergency. Or call the 24/7 DV counselling line 1800 RESPECT. First Nations women can call 13YARN Crisis Supporters 24/7 on 13 92 76, for help that’s designed by mob for mob. And even if the police haven’t been helpful before, report every incident to them on 000 or PoliceLink, and ask them for an incident report number. Queensland Police has a “vulnerable person” SMS service you can register for, so you can text them to make a report.
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Laws that silence victims of DV and SA in Queensland

The incredible Grace Tame recently did an interview on the podcast The Imperfects, and it reminded me all over again that we need to keep talking about this. Thank you, Grace!

It may be 2024, but in Australia, most states and territories still do not allow victim-survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence to speak the truth.

Vulnerable people are silenced by the very legal system that claims it wants to protect us.

The legal system disproportionately favours the person with more money and power. That usually means abusers, who:

  • Have often spent years controlling or withholding household finances
  • Typically earn more thanks to the gender pay gap that still exists in Australia
  • Have the power of a respected position in the community, or
  • Are confident that their victim is not legally allowed to speak up about what they did.

With pro bono legal services and DFV support services across the state already stretched beyond capacity, vulnerable women, non-binary people, trans people, and children, are being left to fend entirely for themselves.

The current legal system in Queensland perpetuates abuse. Because it’s easier for an abuser to control a person when they know that person cannot “out” their abuser.

Read on to find out what laws we need to change.

photo shows author TJ Withers at the Brisbane March against domestic violence in April 2024, holding a sign that says Queensland laws silence victims.
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Mum jailed for not picking up the phone, and other weird ones from the Family Court of Australia

In my research into Australia’s domestic violence epidemic, I’ve found an endless list of cases in Australia where parenting orders have been used as a blunt instrument to punish mums who were trying to keep their children safe from domestic violence and other crimes.

Apologies that the language about the parents in this post is mostly gendered (“mum”, “dad”, etc.). I could have said “parent A / parent B”, but instead, I’ve used gendered language based on how the parents were talked about in the court judgements because I don’t know these people’s preferred pronouns.

So let’s talk about why in Queensland, the Family Court of Australia and the Magistrates Courts, mums get slammed for doing the very thing mums are known for: protecting their babies.

This is not legal advice; I am not a lawyer. I am publishing this as a concerned citizen and an advocate for DFV victim-survivors.

And please ignore any typos; I was typing out this post on my phone this morning when I couldn’t sleep. #3amthoughts am I right? 😅

Let’s get into it.

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Why Australian women choose the bear (a poem by TJ Withers)

This original poem by TJ Withers is a response to the national OurWatch ad campaign and the global social media trend. See the hyperlinks within the poem to get all the context.

Men killed fifty-four women and four kiddies in seven months – who’ll be next?

It’s impossible to bear

Tiktok asked if we walked alone in the woods, would we rather see a wild bear, or a man?

Them men chose the man

We women choose the bear, because

If a bear attacks, people believe us

They don’t say, “He’s a good bear, though. He would never.”

If a bear attacks, you can see the scars

We can prove it happened

Hospital reports, doctor’s notes, days off work

If a bear attacks, the worst it can do is kill us

It don’t desire

To overpower

The bear mauls but won’t assault

If the bear attacks, and we tell someone what happened, the bear don’t sue us

The bear ain’t offended

The bear don’t deny their actions

The bear don’t have money and lawyers and an ego

If the bear killed us, people wouldn’t say,

“She should’ve chosen a better bear.”

If the bear attacks, police would say we were brave – not belligerent

But they say,

“She got aggressive”

“She provokes that bear”

“Put her in jail”

“Take her kids away”

No, nobody makes us raise kids with the bear afterwards

When the bear leaves, he’s gone

If the bear attacks, and it chews us up, spits us out,

Disabled for life

We don’t need to sue just to prove

It was the bear

If the bear attacks, we know it’s because

It’s a bear

Not human

If a man attacks, they say, “Boys will be boys”,

But we know it’s because

He a man

And he don’t think we human like him

It’s impossible to bear

That’s why we choose the bear

So let’s be very clear,

We have the stats – control brings fear

Then violence, then death

But if she asks the police, they ask, “Where did he hit?”

Grabs her screenshots, takes photos, begs for witnesses

If she stands up in court, the judge says, “Needs more evidence.”

Don’t tell me these campaigns are going to work

Asking everyone to think “we” not “me”

They think it’s “not all men”, so good men should stop the bad ones

But if it’s not all men, where are the men?

At our July march, I see one

Old, white, brings a camera

Points it in the face of women without asking first

We cringe

He’s right up close

Up close is where it happens

We were worried about the stranger walking behind us, hoodie strings drawn

Clutched our car keys tight

But that’s not where it starts

No, it’s behind closed doors

They kill a woman every four days

They take what they want, then say she wanted it

They say they earn more, so she stayed home with the kids

They say she can’t see them, so she’s suddenly alone

They say they love her, so she tries not to talk about it

Feel bad

Know something’s wrong

But she’s in her own home

Relationships aren’t meant to be this hard, right?

When social media says more than the pollies

Because we’re the ones who care

It’s impossible to bear

That’s why we choose the bear

This is an original poem written by me, TJ Withers, as a reaction to the femicide epidemic of domestic and family violence (DFV) against women in Australia in 2024. All images are my own, taken at Brisbane’s July march in the series of national marches in the No More Violence Rally organised by the amazing humans and women and trans women and non-binary people at WWYW? Australia. This post does not implicate any men in the commission of DFV against the author or any other woman.

Free Lesson Plan: Unpacking the patriarchy in context (Year 10 English)

This is a lesson plan I wrote in 2024, to align with the F-10 Australian Curriculum for an English class. I wrote the plan for one of my university assessments, so I’ve put the research receipts down the bottom of the page if you want to look closer into the background information.

I’m just a student teacher studying my Master of Education, so please feel free to provide kind, specific feedback. 😎

How to use this lesson plan: I designed this with multiple parts that you can mix and match if you want to run a single lesson … or you can run all parts over a few classes or a double period.

Duration (mins): 70 minutes per class, designed for 2 class sessions or a double period.

Resources needed:

  • PPT and projector
  • Downloaded video clips (for when the WiFi fails us)

Before we get into the lesson plan, though, I just want to clarify one very important question…

Why learn about the patriarchy in English class?

Understanding how the patriarchy perpetuates domestic and family violence (DFV) in Australia is a key part of being an active and informed citizen in 2024. Students are learning empathy as part of the personal and social capability general capability (GC) in the Australian curriculum, and we know that students can build empathy and advocate for others by learning about past and present human rights violations. And because adolescent students are often having their first romantic and sexual experiences, talking about the red flags of abusive relationships helps to protect them from harm.

In a future post, I plan to show you a lesson plan for a Year 10 Psychology class, about how harmful messages in patriarchal societies have affected most people’s implicit biases. Learning to spot our own implicit biases is one of the easiest places to start when learning self-awareness and learning to create psychological safety in our society.

Content for today’s lesson

This lesson focuses on spotting and analysing literary devices and understanding how audiences view a text differently depending on their social and political context. We’ll look at the song Labour by Paris Paloma, which I love as a teaching tool for two reasons.

image shows thumbnail from YouTube video for the official music video of the song Labour by Paris Paloma, posted March 2023.

See YouTube for the official music videos for
labour and cacophony (labour)
by Paris Paloma

First, many students already know this song because it went viral on Tiktok (and then on the rest of social media). So they’re familiar with some of the lyrics, making more brain space available to do the “thinking” analysis tasks of this lesson.

    Secondly, it’s often easier to spot literary devices in poetry texts than in prose like articles or novels, and song lyrics are a highly-effective form of poetry. So teaching Labour as a poetry text means again, students can put more energy towards learning or remembering the content.

    If you’re an education student like me, this reasoning provides evidence of you meeting Australian Professional Standards of Teaching (APST) number 2: knowing the content and how to teach it.

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    Bumble’s bumble: Worst Advertising Campaign of 2024 Award

    The second I saw this ad campaign by Bumble, I immediately uninstalled the app (I never use it anyway) and submitted a 1-star rating everywhere I could, and so did thousands of others.

    Here’s why.

    Note: This article refers to “women and other genders” and to “non-men” in an attempt to represent the reality of as many people as possible. Anytime I’ve written “women”, “trans women”, “trans men”, or “non-binary people”, know that I’m trying to remind people of a gender fluid spectrum, rather than trying to call out specific genders.

    How Bumble offended every non-man in just 2 days

    Bumble launched their “celibacy is not the answer” ad campaign in early May 2024, and it’s worse than anyone expected.

    Example 1 from Bumble's ad campaign in May 2024 says you know full well a vow of celibacy is not the answer.
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